I am happily not part of the dating world, but I can imagine that, on a first date, one question that needs to be asked and answered is this: What is one of your dark secrets?
OK, maybe not on a first date. Most likely, it will be the last date.
Oh – you don’t have any dark secrets? That suggests that you are keeping them secret from yourself.
No, I am not going to reveal my dark secrets here. Did you really think I would?
Once revealed, they are no longer secrets, and so they lose much of their power.
Our dark secrets are a mark of our precious individuality, our self – outposts in the soup of our relationships at work, at home and at play. As such, we need them.
What does a dark secret sound like?
· I pick my nose.
· I had an abortion – two of them.
· I watch porn.
· I had an affair.
· I am having an affair.
· I wish I were dead.
· I ate the last cookies.
· I see more than you think I do.
· I was involved in a hit-and-run.
· I don’t know who I am.
· I have a beast inside me.
· My heart is made of brain tissue.
· I am not here.
You get the idea. What are your dark secrets?